I think that in most cases, an ex is an ex for a reason. However, that's not always the case. Sometimes in this day and age it is just easier to walk away. I mean, you can get a divorce from the comfort of your living room. So, if you and your spouse are in an argument, you can sit in your same dirty pajamas for days, living on ice cream and sex in the city. After a few episodes of independence you can log on to your computer and end your relationship by filling out some papers and pressing enter. It's not just for married couples either.
Sometimes, relationships just hit a plateau. When two people aren't moving backwards, but they are not moving forward either. When the spark is no where to be found and one or both parties are just to tired or bored to re-light the flame. If there has been any hurtful influences, it makes it that much easier to walk away. But, what happens after that, especially if you realize that that person still holds your heart........? I wish I had a good answer, but unfortunately, i don't know. I think it totally depends on the situation. I want to believe that love will conquer all. But it doesn't come effortlessly. I think that there are a few words that when said out loud and meant full heartedly, can definitely help in fixing what's broken.
"I'm sorry and I love you"....To me, "I'm sorry" means not only that one realizes what they've done to cause your heart to break, but also that they are making an effort to not hurt you in that way again. If you are the one saying sorry.... make the conscious decision to change. Because it hurts more to trust that someone is truly sorry, and have to relive the same situation again. Truth be told, the best way to not have to find a way back into someones heart is to not walk away. Now, of course, there are circumstances that are in my mind unfixable.
However, from experience I would say give it your all. If it doesn't work, at least you can hold your head up and walk away. But nothing is worse then walking away and holding a heart of regret. Just because the flame is flickering and trying to go out, doesn't mean it has gone cold. If you put it away before it is out, it may end up burning you later. There are plenty of people walking around only half alive wondering every day... "what if"? Well, instead, what if...... what if it does work. What if you find your best friend looking back at you instead of looking into the eyes of someone new? What if... with a little effort, you become happy all over again? Doesn't sound so bad to me.
However, if you already took the jump. If you already walked away and are now regretting it... try again. The worst that is going to happen is that you will discover that you are an ex for a reason. But , it could happen that the person that your heart is longing for is somewhere else, longing for you as well. It is just my opinion, but of course, I'm a love drunk, all hopped up on romantic comedies and fairytales. I just hate the idea of a bunch of people walking around out there looking back with a heavy heart and a pocket full of what ifs. Instead it would be so much nicer to be standing tall and looking forward to what's next.... If there is something there worth reconsidering, then make sure to look in the rear view before you just speed away! It's better to look now,cuz it may be very hard to see down the road a ways.