If you love it... don't hurt it!!! This seems like a pretty simple concept to me.
To some, however, this idea isn't a natural way of life. I am amazed sometimes when I hear how some people interact with one another. How hurtful the words and actions of some can be towards those that they care most about. I am a firm believer that if you love someone you should treat them with nothing but the best. I think that one should bite their tongue before uttering a cruel word to those around them. Saying mean things is more damaging to a persons self esteem then many obstacles in life. When going through a rough time or personal battle, the last thing anyone needs is to be put down by those who are supposed to care. Life is hard enough without having it made harder through hurtful words and actions of another.Also, every couple will have moments where they will not see eye to eye. However, when these times in life become resolved, the last thing you need is regret for things said that one did not mean. In adolescent relationships there are often knock down, drag out fights where couples attack one another with every mean or cruel thing that they can think of. To me this is a defense, and a way of confusion. One is hurt, and instead of constructively talking about it and fixing the situation they will do the opposite and cause more harm to the situation. By trying to hurt the other person as much as they are feeling is equal to what they are going through. What blows my mind, is that many adults are still stuck in this destructive way of communication.
When things aren't going as they would like in life they lash out at those around them. Let's say work is slow or bills are adding up... do you find yourself fighting and on edge with those around you? Or perhaps after an argument, do you find yourself saying or thinking....I shouldn't have said that, or I didn't mean that , I only said it cuz I was mad. If you truly care for someone, these are things you shouldn't find yourself thinking or saying.
Anger or frustration is nothing but an emotion. The only time it controls you or your actions is when you let it. Like i stated earlier, Be the one to bite your tongue, Don't hurt those you love. Although you can say sorry and things can be forgiven, cruel words of hate cause damage that is very hard to repair. Unfortunately, after a period of repeatedly hearing cruel statements or having been put down by another, a tall shadow can be cast over the beautiful light of a loving heart and it becomes very difficult to see what once shined so brightly.
So my given advise for the day..... If you love it, don't hurt it. It is so much nicer to be loved with someones whole heart then to be loved with whats left of the pieces they have been able to gather back up. It is also so much nicer to be able to hold the one you love after a disagreement without feeling the distance of regret for what has been said. So use your tongue to speak words of encouragement, hope, respect, and love. With those amazing statements you will be able to see those you hold dear, shine like never before. A beauty that is held deep within the soul may only come out when one can be trusted not to cause damage. So be that one that others may trust, with all their heart and soul. I promise it is a much more beautiful place to be then the alternative.....